Friday, March 27, 2015

Mirror Image: Who Are the Five People ...?

I heard recently that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.  A few days later, I heard the same idea again.  So with that in mind, who are the five people you'd like to spend the most time with?  Whose reflection would you like to see in your mirror?

For my list, I'm disqualifying family members.  I don't want anyone to be offended!

This list took me some time to compile.  (It would have been easier to rattle off five celebrities that I wouldn't want to spend time with.)  But I was taking it seriously, so I stuck with it, and here is the result.  Other than the first two, these people are listed in the order in which I met them.
  1. Jesus.  Who's more precious to resemble?
  2. The apostle Paul.  He suffered much during his ministry, yet he never gave up.  Even more than that, he wrote this: "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want."  I have hope, I have joy, and I generally have peace--but I'd be hard-pressed to say that I am "content in any and every situation."
  3. My friend Meri.  We don't spend a lot of time together in the literal sense, because she lives far away.  However, we email frequently, so we're in close contact.  She's the friend who has known me the longest--we've been through everything together!--and we just "get" each other.  She usually doesn't hold back her opinions and, while I don't always agree with her, I know that she always loves me and always tells me the truth.  She's a good example of showing love, being honest, and staying faithful through trials.
  4. My pastor.  I have learned so much from him, both spiritually and personally.  He shows compassion when I need it, shares wisdom when I need it, and offers encouragement when I need it.  He also speaks the truth, even when I don't want to hear it.  He makes me a better, stronger person.
  5. My friend Amanda.  I'd like to have her tender heart, her boundless energy, and her positive attitude.  Even when she's dealing with her own stresses, she finds a way to minister to many.
So, as I asked at the top of this post, Who are the five people you'd like to spend the most time with?  Whose reflection would you like to see in your mirror?

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photo credit: eyes of vanity : vanity mirrors, restoration hardware, santa barbara (2006) via photopin (license)


  1. I like your take on this. I have heard it said that we ARE the sum total of the 5 people we spend the most time with. When I look at my own behavior, it seems to hold truth. So now it would be a nice subject to list (and aspire too) the 5 people we would like to spend time with.

    1. Thanks, Melynda! It took me a while to put together my list, because I wanted it to be the very best list I could write.

  2. I love your list...
    I will have to think about mine.
    Hope you are doing great and have a wonderful weekend.

    1. Hi, Noelle! Making the list was an interesting thought process. Give it a try.

      Things here are going pretty well; thanks. Have a blessed Easter!

  3. I've never thought about this... Giving it a quick ponder and I can only come up with one person so far. Interesting... Enjoyed this post.

    1. Thanks! If you give it a try, let me know how it goes. You don't have to share your list; I'm more curious to hear about the process.

  4. I was just sharing this idea with my children earlier this week. It is certainly something that we must all consider!

    1. Absolutely! I'd always known the influence of our friends on us, but making a list of positive influences required some thought.


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