Friday, October 31, 2014

Leaving - Five Minute Friday - 31 Days

It's Five Minute Friday!  It's also the last day of the 31 Days of Five Minute Free Writes.  As I said yesterday, it's been wonderful, but I'm ready for a break.  I may take much of November off from blogging to spend time with my family.  I think they've forgotten what I look like when I'm not behind the computer.


I haven't had to leave anywhere except by choice.  I haven't been out of the country but twice, and I've always lived in New Jersey.

Of course I left my elementary school, my middle school, and my high school.  The first two were such normal, expected events that I was just happy to move on.  My high school years were not particularly happy, so in some ways, graduation meant freedom.

I didn't go away for college.  For reasons not especially academically sound, I went to community college.  I did that for one year, then I stopped going full-time and got a job.  Still, I had a safety net because I was still living with my parents.  That job lasted only two weeks, because I realized it wasn't for me.  I quickly found another job that would be the start of my real career.

The first major change was moving out of my parents' house.  In retrospect I see that I handled that very poorly.  It was a last-minute decision, just a few days before Christmas (which was already not the most peaceful time for us, anyway).  I should have handled it much better.

Probably the biggest change, though, was leaving my job of 13+ years to stay home with my newborn.  I didn't dislike the job or the people, but I loved my son more than I liked the others!  I went from wearing disposable lab coats and disposable gloves--every safety measure to keep us from contamination--to having someone else's spit-up on my shoulders and not really minding it.  Having a newborn, being home every day ... yes, a dramatic change in lifestyle--but one I wouldn't change for the world.


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  1. We need to leave the old in order to get the new into our life. Not easy but most often very rewarding. Thanks for your reflection. Blessings to you and yours! visiting via FMF)

  2. neat to read how different leavings have impacted you as you reflected briefly on them.

    happy friday!

  3. Congrats on writing every day. Leaving home awkwardly rang a bell for me. I did it awkwardly and my daughter did it awkwardly. Maybe it has to be that way. Happy Halloween from a FMF friend.

  4. Thanks for sharing, Melissa! Life is full of changes, isn't it? I have never regretted a single moment of my years of being home full time with my kids. I've watched them grow up and I think God grew me up in a lot of ways, too!

    Tammy ~@~

  5. Leaving ----
    I went from bar hopping and working in a bar almost 10 years to being a stay at home mom--- not wanting to be out all night so i could be home and see that sweet baby. would not trade it for anything

  6. So many things come to mind for me with the word Leave. I personally have been through a lot of situations of people leaving in many negative ways in my life.
    I am sure that when you moved out of your parents home, it never really would have been a good time (after all there aren't to many parents I know of that really want to see their kids grow up and move out (regardless how much they say otherwise.)

  7. I love that you traded the sterile world for spit up! Isn't that the truth about raising children? It's messy, but oh so blessed.


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