I received a copy of Elderly Parents With All Their Marbles, at no cost to me, for review purposes.
From the back cover:
Sooner or later, it could happen to you! Anyone who has ever had to care for elderly parents will see their own situations reflected in this witty yet practical guide to surviving the ordeal. You’ll feel like you’re right by Pam Carey’s side as she outlines 49 essential points for navigating the trials of elderly living, the medical issues, and the inevitable loss that eventually comes. She illustrates each point with her own sometimes hilarious and often poignant experiences.In Elderly Parents With All Their Marbles, author Pamela Carey tells the story of her parents' later years. Carey was their primary caregiver, so she had the privilege as well as the burden of walking with them through some difficult times. This book reads like her journal, providing not a cold, clinical account, but one infused with emotion.
The fifteen chapters contain 49 rules, such as these:
- Rule Eleven: A caregiver will earn a medical degree without the diploma.
- Rule Nineteen: Someone younger than eighty should accompany elderly parents to the doctor.
- Rule Forty-Six: Set small goals and accept small accomplishments.
Each chapter mixes events with advice, so the reader can learn from the challenges the author has faced. The book is laced with humor, but as you can imagine based on the topic, it's not all light-hearted.
I liked this book and read it in just a few days. I'll keep it for future reference. Perhaps the part I'll value most is the appendix, which contains definitions, notes, websites, and phone numbers. It covers various types of facilities (e.g., assisted living and different kinds of nursing homes). It offers resources for finding a caregiver and finding a facility. It defines medical-legal terms such as living will and DNR. It provides general descriptions of, and links to learn more about, various government programs (e.g., Medicare, pharmaceutical assistance programs).
I recommend Elderly Parents With All Their Marbles if you are in, or think you may be approaching, the stage of being a caregiver for a parent. For more information, click the book title (the Amazon page offers a "Look inside" preview) or visit the book website.