Tuesday, July 27, 2010

No More Christian Nice Girl (Book Review)

No More Christian Nice Girl: When Just Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts You, Your Family, and Your FriendsI wasn't sure about this book when I saw the title, but I wanted to give it a try. I'm glad I did.

About the book:

When passivity and false niceness don't bring the abundant life Jesus promised, some Christian women try even harder to hide behind a fragile fa├žade of pleasant perfection. Paul Coughlin and Jennifer Degler give women the empowering message that they have options far beyond simply acting nice or being mean--if they will emulate the real Jesus Christ and face their fears of conflict, rejection, and criticism. Brimming with enlightening information, thought-provoking questionnaires, real-life stories, and biblically based teaching from both the male author of the pioneering No More Christian Nice Guy and a female clinical psychologist, this book will motivate women to allow God to transform them into authentic, powerful women of loving faith.

No More Christian Nice Girl: When Just Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts You, Your Family, and Your Friends (Paul Coughlin and Jennifer D. Degler, PhD) addresses the issue of assertiveness for Christian women.  One major point is that Jesus Himself showed assertiveness during His time here on earth:  He didn't hesitate to speak the truth in love, and neither should we.  Many of us have learned to be passive, and that can impact every aspect of our lives.  No More Christian Nice Girl describes how women tend to fall into this trap, and how we can escape it--and honor God at the same time.

As I read this book, I found the explanations accurate and the suggestions practical.  Nicole, the stereotypical Christian Nice Girl (CNG), is a bit of an extreme example--but I think that most of the women who are inclined to pick up this book will see some of themselves in Nicole.  I know I did.

I appreciate that No More Christian Nice Girl includes chapters on assertiveness in various situations (friendships, family relationships, work, dating, marriage)--because the same solutions don't necessarily work in all situations.

Disclosure:  I received a copy of this book, at no cost to me, for review purposes.  I was not required to write a positive review, and all opinions in this post are my own.  This post contains affiliate links:  if you click through my Amazon links and complete a purchase, I will receive a small commission.  You know, if it's not too much trouble ... :)


  1. Sounds interesting...but as you say the title makes one want to shy off a bit.

  2. The title at first would be ahhh ... but it sounds like a great book and worth the read :)

  3. The title actually intrigued me. :-) Sounds like a good read. It's good you got something from it and were able to see yourself in what they were talking about. Great review.


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